A quiet guy's strange ideas about love.

Or, a strange guy's quiet ideas about love. You decide.

Love these days is so screwed up. People don't understand it in the least. Oh, he says he loves her cause he knows thats what she wants to hear and if she hears it, he might get something in return. She gives herself to him to make him love her forever. That's not how it works. See, love is totally selfless. Wait, I think I mean Real Love is totally selfless. Maybe this world has convinced itself that real love doesn't have to be. I am by no measure an expert on the subject, but I've seen alot of examples of what love should not be. Love is a sacrifice on your part. It's putting that other person's interests before your own, but it is not compromising your morals or beliefs for that person. Evangelism dating is not right. I also think that dating isn't just for fun. Friendships are for fun. Dating, like Bekah said in her version of this post on her other blog, leads to marriage. That's what it's for. Just watching That 70's show makes me sick sometimes. I know that character Jackie is intentionally that stuck up, pretentious and vain to sortof prove a point, but she still bothers me. I think love is definately not dependent on beauty. You can be like impressed with somebody's outer beauty, but that's not love. I think that movie Shallow Hal showed that well, where once the main character guy could only see girl's inner beauty, the pretty girl was ugly. If you really look, you can see people's inner beauty. It's really pretty. Pretty beyond words. I know it sounds all cheesy, but it's true. Just look at somebody and try to think like they think and see the innocent litte person inside of them and you'll understand what I'm talking about. If the only thing somebody looks for in a relationship is beauty, they are shallow beyond what I can describe. Can I say again that that's not love? I don't think I believe in love at first sight. I can totally understand infatuation with how somebody looks at first sight, but that's different. Love is totally described in I Corinthians 13. [thanks to effin for the reference] Patient, kind, doesn't keep record of wrongs...if you want the whole story on Paul's cool ideas, go look it up. It'll be good for you, especially in context. Man, I know I'm not sposta get mad about stuff, but when I see people getting abused in relationships or just hurt because of carelessness or miscommunication, it drives me nuts. Love also involves alot of forgiveness too. None, of this well, he said this or she said that. No. Forgive and forget is the way to do things after you make things right. Grudges just give that bum satan a foothold to work his way between you. I know I'm sounding preachy. I can't help it. I see it happen all the time. People need to be more easygoing. Not apathetic like me, but not uptight and mean either. And you single people, God has a plan for you. His timing is perfect. I know you're like Dave shut up what the crap do you know? All I know is what I'm told and what I see which equals up to not-a-whole-lot, but listen to me anyway. Singleness can suck. It gets lonely, I know. God knows what He's doing. He knows you better than you know youself. [think about that one] Well, it's time for the ever-talking and ever-preaching-at-you-when-you-didn't-ask-for-it Dave to get sleep so I'm done. Tell me whatcha think.

posted by dave @ 10:21 PM